Tuesday, 5 October 2010

“Command your children to make Salah when they become seven years old

Are we fostering in our children a sense of pride in our Deen? We are so busy trying to make ends meet in our day-to-day struggle to survive that our children's Islamic upbringing is being neglected.

As parents we want our children to be successful doctors, lawyers and engineers. How many of us want our Parents must take care of teaching their children as well as successful professionals today? I see too many Muslim children who try to hide their Islam in the public settings.

It is easier to try to fit in than stand out in the crowd. But that is human nature, is it not? How many of us parents do the same at work?

Absorbed in this world, you’ve made it your burden.
Rise above this world. There is another vision.
All your life you’ve paid attention to your experiences, but never to your Self.
Are you searching for your Soul? Then come out of your prison.
Leave the stream and join the river that flows into the Ocean.
It will not lead you astray.
Let the beauty you seek be what you do.

~Rumi

 Parents must take care of teaching their children the duties of Islam and other virtues that are recommended in Shari`ah, and worldly matters that they need in order to live a decent life in this world.

The man should start by teaching them the most important things, then the next most important. So he starts by teaching them correct ‘Aqidah, free from shirk and bid’ah. Then he teaches them the acts of worship, especially prayer. Then he teaches them and trains them in good manners and characteristics, and everything that is good.

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And (remember) when Luqman said to his son when he was advising him: “O my son! Join not in worship others with Allah. Verily, joining others in worship with Allah is a great Zulm (wrong) indeed”

[Luqman 31:13]

"DO NOT BE ASHAMED OF LEARNING AND TEACHING ALLAH SWT RELGION"

“Verily we have sent it down as an Arabic Qur’an in order that you may understand” [Surah Yusuf: 2]

“And thus We have inspired unto you (O Muhammad) an Arabic Qur’an that you may warn the mother of the towns (Makkah) and all around it” [Surah ash-Shura: 7]

“And truly this (the Qur’an) is a revelation from the Lord of the 'Alamin (mankind, jinn’s and all that exists), which the trustworthy Ruh (Jibril) has brought down upon your heart (O Muhammad) that you may be (one) of the warners, in the plain Arabic language” [Surah ash-Shura: 192-195]


“Whoeverchildren to make Salah seeking that which is with Him, he will win. And whoever learns something for other than Allah, he will not reach the goal, nor will his acquired knowledge bring him closer to Allah.”

~ Al-Hasan al-Basri

Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-Asr, narrated that the Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said,

“Command your children to make Salah when they become seven years old…” Abu Dawud

This does not mean that parents can only start teaching their children how to perform it when they reach the age of seven. Rather, informal instruction should start when a child starts to show an interest in Salah, which usually occurs around the age of two. It is only human nature that children love to imitate their parents. In fact, this is one method that Allah has provided us for teaching our youth.

Here are some quick tips:

    * Informal teaching should start when child starts to show interest usually occurs around the age of two.
    * Let them pretend to make Salah.
    * Invite them to pray along side and join the family jammah prayer.
    * At a young age, children usually imitate what they see, so it is important to always pray in front of them
    * One of the first steps is to learn al-Fatiha which should begin around the age of three or four. Break down the instructions by using reasonable number of verses or small segments.
    * The practice session should only last between 5 to 15 minutes. At this age consistency is more important than length of practice.
    * Remind them that they are praying to Allah to thank him for all He has given them
    * Important to remember that not all children are ready at the same time and that not everyday will the child is ready to learn new materials.
    * Educational products can assist parents in achieving success with their children because children generally learn in different ways therefore introduction of material through different format (video, coloring book, going to the masjid) will help ease and reinforce the learning process.
    * One of the most important things that a parent should do is to praise the child for each accomplished task and encouragement to achieve more success.

 How to teach a child to steal: He! He! He!

Carefully lock away from him all fruits and sweets. Allow him no money for personal expenses. If you miss anything, accuse him of having taken it. If you send him out to make purchases, count the change with suspicious care when he returns. If he has lost a few pennies, accuse him of having spent them for candy. If you never buy candy for him, this will teach him a means of supplying he, and probably you next accusation will be true.

Strike children and they will learn to strike each other; scold them and they learn to quarrel; give them drums and flags and uniforms and toy guns and they desire to become professional murderers. Open their letters, listen to their conversations with their young friends, pry into their little secrets, invade their private rooms without knocking, and you make them meddlers and disagreeable companions.

Less than seven years stealing is sometimes part of learning about "me" and "mine". Children may still see what belongs to family and close friends as the same as being theirs. As they learn more about owning and sharing things they will learn to ask and not take something that belongs to someone else. Parents need to tell them:
Some children know what is right and wrong but still steal. This is because something is going wrong in their lives and they need your help to sort it out.

...Don’t react too quickly if you find your child has stolen. Give yourself time to think about it first so you can talk to the child calmly.
...Try to find the cause and fix it.
... Teach and show the things you want your children to learn, e.g. why it is important to respect others’ belongings.

    * Make sure that your children do not see you do things like cheating, avoiding paying fares for example.
    * Children learn much more from what you do than from what you say.
.......Do not label the children or young people as thieves, or discuss the problem with other adults in front of them


Less than seven years stealing is sometimes part of learning about "me" and "mine". Children may still see what belongs to family and close friends as the same as being theirs. As they learn more about owning and sharing things they will learn to ask and not take something that belongs to someone else. Parents need to tell them:
Some children know what is right and wrong but still steal. This is because something is going wrong in their lives and they need your help to sort it out.

Say I Love You
Tell your child you love him every day -- no matter his age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child disagreement, when you don't exactly "like your child" at that mom

You never know what you have until you lose it, and once you lose it, you can never get it back.

Most of all! Be a friend to your child.

Listen to his or her problems and help him to solve them islamically.

Make your child active in finding the solution to their problem. Don't try to shelter your child from the harshness of reality.

If you are not open-minded and helpful in resolving their problems, they will find someone else who is, and that person may not have the proper Islamic perspective.

Drugs, violence, sexual promiscuity, lack of respect for the authority and an attitude that everyone should be respected regardless of his/her morality are but just a few.

The good news is that these are the problems to which only Islam offers the correct solution.

No matter what environment we choose for our children, we must remember that the role we play as a parent to teach our children their religion and help them to develop pride in it is crucial.

Let's all work together as an Islamic community to help ourselves and to help our children be good Muslims.

.........May Allah make our efforts sincere and keep us all on the straight path...........

Feel free to Share the information here with everyone you know,
And earn Sawab-e-Jariya..May Allah swt make it a source of Sawab-e-Jariya for u and me .Ameen

P.S.: "Have fun praying    don’t forget to make dua for me.

1 comment:

Raini Munti said...

do you have children?