Tuesday, 22 March 2011

Sawdah bint Zam`a (radiyallaahu anha)

Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam)  He cared about many children.

Sawdah bint Zam`a (radiyallaahu anha), since she was the first woman to enter the household of the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) after his first and beloved wife Khadeejah (radiyallaahu anha). Sawdah (RA) was generous, obedient and loyal woman with sense of sacrifice. 'Aisha (RA) was impressed by her simple and selfless nature. She was among the first to accept Islam and also had the distinction of immigrating twice, first to Abyssinia and then to al-Medina.

Her mother, Shamus, was from the tribe of Bani Najjar, a branch of the Quraish; her father was also from a branch of Quraish, Banu 'Amir Bin Loii. She was married to her cousin Sakran bin Amar, then after his death, she married the Messenger (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam)). All her husband's brothers Sohail, Sahl, Hatib and Sateel had the honor of being the Companions of the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). Both she and her husband accepted Islam in its earliest stage and migrated to Abyssinia in the Way of ALLAH (SWT). They were blessed with a boy whom they named `Abdur-Rahman.

One day she dreamt that the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam)entered her house and caught hold of her by the nape of her neck. When she told about her dream to her husband, he interpreted it to mean that after his death she would marry the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). Some time later she had another dream that the moon was descending into her lap. She told Sakran about it as well and again he interpreted her dream for her. His death was imminent, he said, and she would marry the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). A few days later he fell ill and passed away. She was left lonely and it seemed to her that there was no purpose for life.
One of her friends was Hawla, the wife of Uthman bin Madh’aon. One day she visited the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) and noticed that he was leading a very lonely life with the responsibility of bringing up his 4 daughters, and was missing his wife Khadeejah (RA). She suggested to him that he should get married. He asked who would be willing to take the responsibility for his household and daughters. She suggested that he should marry Sawdah. He (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) agreed. When Sawdah found out the great news, she was overcome with joy and honor being bestowed upon her. After her old father blessed her marriage, Hawla visited the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) again with good news. Soon the marriage took place and Zam’ah performed the ceremony. The Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) gave Sawdah (RA) 400 dirham as her Maher (bridal gift) on the occasion. Her brother, Abdullah, who hadn’t accepted Islam yet, was very saddened with the news, but later on, after having become a Muslim, he realized the greatest honor he and his family had.
Sawdah, of course, was very happy to move into the house of Khadeejah (R.A), where the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) lived with his daughters, Umm Kulthûm (R.A.) and Fatima (R.A). She felt very fortunate that her future now was assured. She would often relate her memorable experiences in Abyssinia, and talk especially about his daughter Ruqqayah R.A. and her husband Uthman bun Affan (R.A) and the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) would listen with great interest.

On one occasion Ruqqayah (RA) visited Makkah. The sisters received her with mixed emotions of joy and sorrow, joy on seeing her after so many years, and sorrow because they were meeting each other for the first time after the death of their mother, Khadeejah (RA). Sawdah (RA) stepped forward and embraced Ruqqayah (RA). Both of them never expected to see each other after their days in Abyssinia, now as mother and step-daughter. The Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) got news from his daughter and son-in-law of the latest developments of how the refugee sahabas were fairing and of the position of the ruler Najashi. Every day brought new stories about the tortures and hardships of Muslims there. So due to all these circumstances the Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) decided that his followers should migrate to al-Madinah. A few days later ALLAH (Swt) ordered him to migrate as well. On reaching al-Madinah they stayed at the house of Abu Ayyub Ansari R.A. Once he was settled he sent Zaid bin Harith (R.A.) and Abu Raffia (R.A.) to Makkah with some camels and 500 dirham to bring all the members of his family. The two trusted Companions reached there and immediately left for al-Madinah with Sawdah, Ruqqayah, Umm Kulthûm , Fatima (may ALLAH be pleased with them). Umm Aiman (R.A) the wife of Zaid bin Harith R.A. and his son Osama were part of the caravan as well, which was put up at the house of Harith bin Nu`man Ansari (RA) on reaching al-Madinah .

She was same age as our perfect mother Khadeejah R.A. when Khadeejah R.A. died. Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). Asked Sawdah (R.A.) to marry him for the reason: to take care of his children. Sawdah (R.A.) was that time 65 years old woman of no beauty!

She had also 5 kids with her ex husband As-Sakran Bin Amru with whom she migrated to Abyssinia where he died.

So till now we can see that Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam).  He cared about many children. Khadeeja’s (R.A.) 3 kids from previous marriages, Ali R.A., His own 6 children and probably some of Sawda's (R.A.) children. Subhanallah!

She once said to our beloved Prophet (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam) .:"Oh messenger of Allah, my only wish in this life is to be summoned on the Day of Judgment among your wife’s so I will get the same reward as the other wife’s get.
She used to make some jokes, and once she said to our beloved Prophet Muhammad, (Sallallaahu alayhi wasallam). "I caught my nose when I was praying behind you in order do not to bleed, so He laughed."

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